I used to be a real sex kitten with my husband. But now I'm too tired to even think about sex. How do I get my energy back?Molly from Los Angeles, California

Dr. Phil: Here's the deal. Between one-third and two-thirds of women say they don't wanna have sex anymore and guys are like, "What's up with that?" Well, look, you really have to work at this. Intimacy is not just sex. There's a lot more. Intimacy has to do with touch and conversation.

If you ask women what's sexy, they don't say flowers and candy. How 'bout you get up off the couch, do the dishes and bathe the kids...that's sexy. Seriously. Then you have the energy. And it's different for men and women. Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.

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Remember, it may not burn a lot of calories, but it is non-fattening. It's the most fun you can have without laughing. And if it's not, if you don't feel good about it—practice, practice, practice.

And the best thing you can do—and this will seem counterproductive or counterintuitive—is to be a selfish lover. Because if you're having a great time, trust me, your partner will be having a great time. So, be a selfish lover. Get what you want out of it, be willing to talk about it.

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