How can we live our best life this year, Dr. Oz?Gayle King, host ofAsk Oprah's All Stars

Dr. Oz: I had a dear friend who passed away recently and we were looking back at something that he had written when he was in high school. And he said he'd wished that his children would have at least one moment of real pain, of real discomfort.

That's sort of a strange thing to wish on the people in your life that you love the most. But he's a very thoughtful man, and we learned that what he was really talking about was the fact that pain is the foil of joy, of love, of life. And I think as a nation we've gotten really uncomfortable being in pain.

So what I'm asking you to do is to be comfortable being uncomfortable. I want you to deny yourself an indulgence. In part, to see what it feels like, and then write it down. And experience what it's like because that's what makes us who we are. Create a little discomfort in your life because that's how we grow. Not all stress is bad. And how you cope with it is really what matters.

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