Roz continuing to punish herself does not honor Jackson or the rest of the family, she says, but remembering and grieving will. "What you did is you happened to be caught doing what we all do—being absorbed in the moment, stressed out about a situation," Dr. Robin says. "To forgive yourself would be to say that you did something wrong. What happened is your humanity, and how fragile each moment is and that we have almost no control. Can we learn something? Absolutely. Will you save lives because you're here today? Absolutely."
But in addition to reminding drivers to be careful around children, Dr. Robin says Roz can teach another lesson. "If you can begin to teach that you're not going to stay frozen in this self-punishment, that would be equally as great a gift even for your children to know that ... when life knocks you down, that you can somehow recover," Dr. Robin says. "That gift is the gift that we all need."