While it may seem strange that Stacey chose to live with her father after her parents' divorce, she says it made sense to her when she was 12 years old. "We got sent back and forth between the two of them a lot, and there were times that he didn't hurt me," she says. "My father loved me, not the abuser who would rape me. They weren't [the same person] in my mind."
Stacey says she is often judged by the decision she made to live with her dad. "A lot of times we wind up seeing more victimization because of the choices we make," she says. "My life was hell, and I was struggling just to be able to survive every day, and then after the fact I have to face answers of why I didn't do this or that—it's harsh."