While there were religious pressures to keep quiet, Ted says only he is to blame for his problems. "Sometimes in religious environments there's pressure to perform, and I, particularly, had pressure as the pastor of the church … but I think the fault is my own," he says. "I submitted to that and participated in it. But now, of course, I'm thrilled to be able to speak openly and really be me."
Ted and Gayle say their marriage is better now that they've told their story to the public. "Whenever you have honesty, you have the opportunity for greater intimacy, and that's been our process," Gayle says.