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For when you are afraid to get married
More than 150 years ago, Anthony Trollope devoted his long, ravishing, astute and very fun novel, Can You Forgive Her? to the struggles of the waffling Alice Vavasor, who can't decide if she wants to get married. Her fiancé is thoroughly decent and Alice loves him. But does that mean she has to marry him? She isn't sure. Trollope writes, nonjudgmentally, that she had "filled herself with a vague idea that there was a something to be done; a something over and beyond, or perhaps altogether beside that marrying and having two children;—if she only knew what it was." If you yourself feel undecided, you can find all of your anxieties reassuringly addressed in this book; even, if ultimately, you must resolve them yourself.