From a spiritual perspective, however, none of this is real. It's obvious that people constantly change. We hunger for news; we inflame daily life into crises, large and small. Our moods shift, as does every cell in our bodies. To say that people don't change is an arbitrary perspective, a point of view that seems safe. It's also a form of resignation, giving in to the inevitable. You must stop reinforcing this aspect of "no" if you want to tap into the eternal flow of spiritual energy.

  • See yourself as changing all the time.
  • Encourage change in others.
  • When you hear yourself uttering a fixed opinion, stop.
  • When someone offers a counter opinion, don't resist.
  • Argue from the opposite side every once in a while.
  • Don't stamp out the fragile beginnings of change, either in yourself or others.
  • Stop being absolute. Let your attitude be more flexible and provisional.
  • Don't take pride in being right.
When you have an impulse to grow and evolve, follow it without regard for the opinion of others.

Habits keep us trapped. Everyone knows what it means to be caught up in habitual behavior—habits keep married couples fighting the same argument for years. It makes us plop down on the couch rather than working for change. It reinforces bad diets and lack of exercise. In general, habit chooses inertia over energy. Here, the force of "no" is fairly obvious—or is it? If you look at it without negative judgments, a habit is nothing more than a useful shortcut, an automatic pathway imprinted in the brain. A skilled pianist has imprinted the habit of moving his fingers a certain way; he wouldn't want to reinvent his technique every time he sat down at the keyboard. A short-order cook who can turn out six omelets at a time relies on the fact that his brain is imprinted with a set of automatic motions timed precisely.

Eliminating roadblocks to your spiritual energy