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Lesson 12: Holding on to the Past

This guided workbook will be your companion to lesson twelve from Oprah's Lifeclass.

1

What pain are you carrying from long ago that is holding you back today?

2

Where are you insisting that something shouldn't have happened, when it did? Try something radical: list three reasons why it's good that this thing occurred.

3

Are you upset about a situation that only exists in your thoughts? If so, how could changing your thoughts change the situation?

4

How does "letting go" look to you? What are the steps for accomplishing it?

5

List the benefits you get from focusing on anger and blame toward someone else. For example, "I don’t have to face my loneliness," or "I get to feel righteous."

6

Write a letter to someone you're angry at. Then cross out the person's name, substitute your own, and re-read the letter. Where might you make the changes you want from your enemy?

7

Where are you trying to get ideal behavior from someone who's just not ideal? Can you forgive yourself for wanting them to be something they're not?

8

Would you be glad if your painful past helped you heal someone else who's hurting the way you were hurt? How can you use your painful past to do good?

9

If a random spark erased just the part of your memory that stores your worst pain from the past, who would you be, and what would you do?

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