For you, the definition of contentment is knowing exactly what you believe in and what to expect. Change, on the other hand, sends you spinning. Even if you suspect something isn't working anymore, you’d rather keep trying than plunge into the unknown.

Your assignment: Trust in uncertainty.

1. Remember: Not changing is not natural.

If you've ever heard “Change is the only constant,” thank the Greek philosopher Heraclitus, who believed that the universe is meant to be perpetually in flux. Seasons keep changing, rivers keep flowing—even our cells replace themselves.

Post-it quote: "What I like most about change is that it can be a synonym for 'hope.' If you are taking a risk, what you are really saying is, 'I believe in tomorrow, and I will be part of it.'" —Linda Ellerbee, journalist

2. Flip the script.

For every potential loss, there’s something to be gained. Pinpoint exactly what’s scaring you, then try asking, “Where’s the opportunity here?”

• What would be different? (e.g., I might go back to school.)
• What scares me? (I’d have to leave my coworkers.)
• What could be great? (I might make a new best friend.)

3. Write your memoir.

Look back over the past five years and think about the big changes in your life, the greatest obstacle for each, and how you overcame it. Now imagine it’s five years in the future and this struggle is behind you.

Answer these questions:

• How did you get through?

• How did you use what you’d learned from the past?

4. Control the controllables.

Make a list of little ways you can maintain a sense of order. Sometimes it’s easier to face major uncertainty when you can depend on the minor details.

5. Lower the stakes.

Now think of little ways to shake things up: Instead of getting your afternoon cup of coffee, sit outside in the sun. Call a friend rather than texting her. Go to Google and click I’m Feeling Lucky.


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