6 Ways to Improve Your Life Before Saturday
—Cyd Keser, San Rafael, California
Beloved, You have taken the first step toward healing: acknowledging the problem. When people are in a caregiving profession, they often don't put themselves first or even second. As a result, they tend to fall victim to an "I don't matter" syndrome. Here is a simple journaling exercise to uproot that unproductive belief and help you learn to honor yourself.
1. For nine consecutive days, complete the following statement nine times, in nine different ways: I don't matter because ___________________________________________.
The goal is to keep writing until you run out of reasons.
2. Now we'll build the foundation for some new, better ideas. Complete this statement 21 times a day in 21 different ways for nine consecutive days: I do matter because _____________________________________________.
3. Finally, let's create some positive habits. Every morning for nine more days, write nine different statements about what you will do that day because you matter. Here are some examples: I will eat healthy, nutritious foods today because I do matter. I will exercise for 20 minutes today because I do matter. I will say no to all requests made of me today because I do matter. Choose three statements per day and use them to implement your new behaviors. I will ______________________________________ today because I do matter.
I believe in you!
—Iyanla Vanzant, host of OWN's Iyanla: Fix My Life