What Your Clutter Is Trying to Tell You
HAS A HARD TIME LETTING GO OF: Anything with monetary worth or perceived rarity
People who operate from the Frugal archetype tend to act from a place of mindful self-awareness and contentment. They plan for the future but are rooted in the present moment, viewing their surroundings with clarity. Frugal types have thoughtfully uncovered their most important goals and choose to spend their resources in ways that are aligned with those highest priorities. They thoughtfully eliminate expenses that do not add to their health, joy, or goals for happiness. They prioritize what is most important and use their resources to highlight these priorities. People who operate in the Frugal state are centered and intentional with how they expend their energy.
In the shadow side of Frugal lies Scarcity. Scarcity has little to do with a person’s current state of wealth, because Scarcity dwells in replaying problems from the past or projecting anxieties into the future. People operating from a place of Scarcity feel unstable, ill at ease, and unsure, and they hold on to the items around them in an attempt to quell these fears. They typically rely on outside circumstances to soothe their internal discomfort. This reactionary behavior often stems from some trauma experienced in the past. We find that when our clients are willing to do the work, to sit down and face all the reasons they allow the clutter to accumulate, they have the biggest breakthroughs.
The central idea blocking Scarcity types from releasing items is money. They hold tight to any object that they spent money on, whether expensive or perceived to have high worth, regardless of whether that object is useful or pleasurable.
Tool for Moving from Scarcity Back to Frugal
Come up with a list of at least three practices that have worked in the past to calm and center you in situations of stress.
List these practices in your journal, and plan to utilize them if you’re having trouble with a particular category down the road.
© 2018 by Cary Telander Fortin and Kyle Louise Quilici. All rights reserved. Excerpted from New Minimalism by permission of Sasquatch Books.