The Time-Capsule Vacation: 7 Things You Never Thought of Doing in Your Hometown
1. Cue up videos of your younger, less self-conscious, more exuberant self.
Dig out the recordings of you doing those things you just loved as a kid: twirling the baton, playing the flute, acting in living room theater. Even if these videos contain mortifying moments of flop sweat and botched lines, they'll still make you flush with pleasure, says Tim Wildschut, PhD, an associate professor at the University of Southampton in England, who researches nostalgia. You'll unconsciously emphasize the aspects you loved about this activity—the exhilaration of performing, the release of energy, the pride in your parents' faces—and laugh at or ignore the rest. This activity can help you feel more in touch with the younger version of yourself and boost your confidence in the older version too, says Wildschut.
2. Get the real story behind that chipped platter your mother refuses to part with.
This not-so-gently-loved plate has become so much a part of the holiday that you've stopped seeing it. This year, get your mother talking about its history, suggests Evan Imber-Black, PhD, director of the Center for Families and Health at the Ackerman Institute for the Family in New York City. Don't just ask who made the platter but also find out how it ended up on your family's table and what it means to your mother. Going home as an adult gives us an opportunity to identify important symbols like these that we might never notice as a child, says Imber-Black, the author of Rituals for Our Times. They can help illustrate the story of your family history and make your relatives seem like complicated, interesting characters from an epic work of fiction by Tolstoy or Franzen.
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This will be even more fun if you do it with a friend, and not just because she can remind you of who that quiet boy who sat next to you in Algebra II was. "We've found repeatedly that sharing happy memories strengthens relationships and brings you closer to others," says Wildschut. It will also put you in a great mood: Research from another British group, separate from Wildschut's, found that looking at favorite old photos made people feel happier than eating expensive chocolate, having a cocktail, listening to music or watching TV.
4. Introduce your kids to beloved family members—even if they're no longer around.
You can still help your kids get to know relatives they didn't have a chance to meet by looking at keepsakes, family heirlooms and photos, and sharing personal details and funny stories. One way to make this more interactive is to cut out copies of photos of relatives and play a memory game where the kids collect different faces and tell three facts about each person. This will not only help you and your kids feel connected to the family, but Wildschut says that it can also help you feel a little better about losing those family members you were once close to. "Nostalgia does have a tinge of sadness," he says (remember Chevy Chase as Clark Griswold tearing up while watching family films in Christmas Vacation?). "However, most of the folks in our research report that the joy and the warmth they get from thinking about those people predominates."
5. Tackle your family tree.
Building a detailed family tree is a massive project—one that can bring your family together and put you in touch with relatives you didn't know you had. It also offers plenty of safe conversation topics ("Where was great-grandpa born, Dad?"). Many families have traced their history back three or even four centuries using Ancestry.com, which has organized over 7 billion records like marriage certificates, census records, military draft cards and ships' passenger lists. For a subscription fee, you get access to a vast database as well as tools that help you organize and share the information. You could also use your Ancestry.com findings to help direct you to historical societies and libraries in your hometown (or other towns) that might provide additional records. Mary Quimby, an Ancestry.com subscriber whose family tree hobby has become nearly a full-time job, has used the Internet, local archives and graveyards to create a family tree that dates back to 1675, and another for her husband that reaches into the early 1500s. She's found that cemeteries often hold the most rewarding clues: While visiting relatives' tombs in a cemetery in Kentucky, she was surprised to find a long-lost great-great-great-grandmother buried nearby. Quimby suggests shaving cream as an easy way to clear the grime off tombstones and get a better look at inscriptions.
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Start by looking up your state on AmericanHeritage.com, maintained by the American Association for State and Local History. You can search through over 4,000 historical sites for locations by themes like "American Revolution" or "Women's History." The next time you're visiting relatives near De Smet, South Dakota, for instance, you may want to check out the Laura Ingalls Wilder Memorial Society, which contains many original artifacts of the family and the first school in town. If you grew up near Charles City, Virginia, you weren't far from the Berkeley Plantation, the site of the first official Thanksgiving in 1916 and the birthplace of the ninth U.S. president, William Henry Harrison. Not all sites are listed on AmericanHeritage.com, so also search online for the historical society in your town, county or nearby city. Someone there will most likely be thrilled to share the most interesting events in your town's past.
7. See the place where you grew up through someone else's eyes.
Check out TripAdvisor, Chowhound or Yelp to find out what others have said about local hotels, restaurants and tourist attractions. RoadsideAmerica.com lists thousands of the more offbeat sites that don't usually make it to the field-trip itinerary, like the Puppet Opera in Rolling Meadows, Illinois, the RV Museum and Hall of Fame in Elkhart, Indiana, and the castle built out of beer cans by a recluse in Antonito, Colorado. The site launched an iPhone app last year that uses GPS to help you find weird but intriguing attractions nearby.
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