Tom on the Paparazzi
Oprah: I don't think that America understands what it's like to be hunted like a dog. It's really like being hunted like a dog.
Tom: Yeah, and it's something I've lived with for so long. And you don't know until you're inside of it.
Oprah: But it's accelerated, has it not?
Tom: It used to be, like, just in Europe. But even when I started out with Risky Business and Top Gun came out, there was the paparazzi. You knew them, and I could go up to them and say, "Give me a break tonight. I'll give you the shots tomorrow."
Oprah: You have seen how—we both have seen how—the ability to spin and how once something happens it can just sort of be taken in context, out of context, and spiral into something unimaginable, unimaginable. ... Are you surprised by that?
Tom: Sometimes I am, actually. ... Twelve hours after Kate tested [positive for her] pregnancy test, we went [to the doctor] in the middle of the night. ... Someone leaked it. ... Kate and I looked at each other and went, "Man, I thought I was good setting this up."
Oprah: Cause what? You went in the middle of the night to get the pregnancy test?
Tom: We went in the middle of the night. Kate and I ... we're very excited. It's such a private moment. ... And we sat down, we thought, "All right, now what are we going to do?"
Oprah: Cause you know it's going to be a zoo. You already know that.
Tom: ... My life was already a zoo. Then Kate came in, and it was a real zoo. And then, now she's pregnant, and it was like, it was off the charts. ... We sat down and talked about it. ... And there is enough stress just, like, how's the pregnancy going? And so, so we bought a sonogram machine. We had the doctor coming and doing this. Someone found out that we—
Oprah: You bought the sonogram machine because you wanted the doctor to come here?
Tom: Yeah, to come to the house. ... People found out that we had a sonogram machine. Then I was asked about it, and I wasn't about to tell people I was sneaking the doctor into the property, and you are not going to find out what hospital and where, and that's how we were able to do it. ... You know, and when you're having a baby, you just want it to be safe and easy as possible.
Releasing Pictures of Suri
Oprah: Why did you all decide to wait three months? You know, because now some people come out immediately. I bet it is a big decision—how you're going to do it, how you're going to present her to the world or if you're not, if you're going to try to keep her from people.
Tom: Look, Kate and I didn't feel any need to do it. We said, "Why? It's our family." ... Then we heard all this stuff that was going on. And we said, "Okay, what do you want to do?" So then Kate said, "Okay, look...let's just do it. We'll just do this. This is ridiculous, and we'll just do it, and that'll be it.'"
Katie in the Spotlight
Oprah: How is Kate handling all of this? Because, listen, she was, you know, Dawson's Creek, but she wasn't all over every magazine.
Tom: No one should ever underestimate—that woman has got strength.
Oprah: Was she hurt by all those things people were saying about you and about your baby?
Tom: You know, I think it's something I'd rather Kate talk about that, than me talking for Kate.
Oprah: I understand that.
Tom: You know what I mean? ...
Oprah: But you know how she felt.
Tom: Yeah. Absolutely. I mean, picture every mother and how she's going to feel about that. ... It's the downside, and I don't want to give that a lot of weight because of the upside and what we get to do is so great, and that's what I try to do, focus on that.
Oprah: Were you upset or have you been upset by people saying even what you have isn't real? What you have with Kate isn't real?
Tom: That's laughable to me. That stuff's laughable.
Bella and Connor Cruise
Oprah: Do you think that your kids are having a normal life? Or has the Cruise factor affected them?
Tom: Look, it's something that always as a parent you're struggling. "Did I say the right thing? Did [I] do the right thing?" ... We're a family. And part of it is, I try to really create a life together.
Oprah: Is it hard on them if you're being attacked in the press?
Tom: You know what? They love me, so they know. They've grown up with that, and I'm sure there's things that they don't like. And you go, "Okay, that happened. Things go wrong, but don't live in it. Don't live in that because today is a new day and there's plenty of tomorrows." ... They're good people, my children. I'm proud of them because they're good people. I don't want them to worry about anything. You know, as a parent, I don't want them to worry. I don't want them to worry.
Oprah: That's what a good parent is.
Tom: I'm someone who's like, I take care of things. They know me; they know I'm there. No matter what, I'm always there.
Does Tom Feel Misunderstood?
Oprah: Do you feel this past—I would say rather the past three years I guess it's been since you and I talked, you've been misunderstood? And what has been the most misunderstood?
Tom: ... I feel like definitely things have been misunderstood, and [there are] things I could have done better. And I think that where I look at it, I go, "Okay." But then there's also that world where you go, "Oh, it's been spun to such an extent and that's a truth also."
Oprah: Has it taught you anything, Tom, this past three years? What did it teach you?
Tom: I never stop learning. And knowing when and where to communicate, I think that's important.
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