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What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis? |
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Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization? Is one or both of us neat? Messy? A "pack rat?" An organizational wizard? |
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| Money |
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How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten? |
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What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means, and through what efforts? |
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What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend? Now? In one year? Five? Ten? |
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| Work |
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How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening? |
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If one of us doesn't want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay? |
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How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other's level of ambition? |
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| Sex |
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Am I comfortable giving and receiving love, sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my
love for him or her? |
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Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire
levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More? |
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| Health and Food |
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Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares
the meals? Who cleans up afterward? |
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Is each of us happy with the other's approach to health? Does one have habits or
tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)? |
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| Family |
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What place does the other's family play in our family life? How often do we visit
or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How
often? For what length of time? |
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If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have to their
grandchildren? How much time will they spend together? |
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| Children |
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Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us? |
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How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want or be able to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? In the months or years following the birth of our child, will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping? |
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| Community and Friends |
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Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially, and do we need to cut back on such commitments? |
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What are my partner's needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside of our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way? |
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| Spiritual Life |
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Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More
than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation? |
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Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the
time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other's choices? |
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