before you make that leap into the commitment that big issues that couples in distract Obama swept. Our money Sachs. Raising children and to some extent extended family you know conflicts. And said the more I believe that you can contrasts with those issues. The better off. Your marriage is gonna be -- an -- no hard and fast it's cystic sad how many couples secret -- therapy now verses in the past -- Therapists who specialize in this say they'd definitely notice an upswing in the last two decades. I am and certainly the number of family marriage counselors has skyrocketed over the past twenty years thirty years. I have but I think modern -- couples are waiting later -- married -- education and by the time they get married. They're more fully aware of all that a lifelong commitment in tales. And in now like I -- many house of worship requiring. Especially Catholic episcopalian and Christian and other Christian churches will require -- have a wedding married celebrities have become more open at -- couples therapy Courtney Cox and editor -- it's said that they went -- to -- some bumps in their relationship where they locked down the aisle. Harry Hamlin -- Iran I would just telling me recently that they. Went into pre marital therapy therapists say communication and conflict resolution. And they eat them are basically the two -- That couples work on and premarital counseling. And I think that's definitely key Kiki but those other factors are really important -- but if you go into your marriage knowing how to resolve conflict. Knowing that conflict is okay. Knowing how to communicate your knees to your partner you are in such. Good shape. I think to some extent couples therapy does still carry a stick mass of people think OK what we're about to get married but what we need therapy for -- this to be the best time of our alliance. Add their assumption is that there's something wrong in the relationship if two people have to ask her go to a therapist. Especially the for their married. I did in that attitude is changing semite and that and and because I noticed just at the stage at which people come to -- Berman -- are used to be when I first. Was doing this work 1520 years again you know -- most of the couples that I would see would be couples that are like on marital law last. -- you know they were on. Like on the verge of divorce. And you know in that situation yet do so much work just to get the two of you on the same page before you can even address. The issues that got either sexual or otherwise. Nowadays I noticed more and more that couples are coming and where they basically still really like each other they still have a good connection they still feel good about