I wanna talk a little bit about rebounds relationships . We've hall -- before you -- relationship . And you think it's gonna last indefinitely usually most the time you do and suddenly your -- off. And you for many of -- hate the idea of being alone and so what He did the closest available person. You get into the relationship to heal those on balloons to remind yourself is still attractive to. Get revenge to. Confirm it that you're you know that what you thought what you heard from your partner was wrong with you -- their relationship isn't really Iran. You know lobbying their rebounder is never a good thing because you aren't ready for real relationship -- hurting someone house being a rebound. -- and where does nobody wants to be used as the emotional band aid over someone's painful break up. So what do you get -- is -- best time is their best time to get into a new relationship . After a break -- that's the question and what I tell folks -- when I'm asked about best. Is that I do believe that. But I think it. The minimum amount of time once should be single after a break -- Is in part determined by who did the breaking not did you do the breaking up are we broken up went. Were you prepared to the relationship die a slow death or was it very Sutton and you are totally taken by surprise. Are you in part relieved or may be completely relieved that their relationship is of -- Are you devastated. You know where do you fit a Mac continued -- and based on all of those factors that tells you to some extent how -- out. If it was a painful break out. If it was a lot. You know if it was a painful break up that that you're hurt very much if there's still hurting you know this is -- in an ideal. -- in an ideal world I would say that you after a serious relationship breaks up a logger termed serious relationship . You ideally it's you're looking for another. Long term relationship wanna wait at least. Six months to a year. Before getting into a new relationship but doesn't mean you can't date. I would wait several months before you start dating at least three. But I would not getting to another serious relationship why. Because you really -- figure out what went wrong and that relationship and even more importantly. What can I learn from that because every relationship teaches you something about yourself. And every break up. Teaches you even more about yourself and if you can figure out. Well at rock and a relationship what roles was I playing what did I contribute. Not only in choosing this person that broke my harder whose heart I whose heart I had to break because they weren't doing it for me. Why were they not doing it for me. Why was -- not enough for them. You know really asking yourself those tough questions and looking yourself in the mirror and in an ideal world I really believe getting into therapy. Because He can learn so much then. You're so much more likely to get into healthy. Relationship and even more importantly choose. Someone. We're gonna have a healthy relationship -- because I can guarantee -- nine times out of ten not -- But nine times out of -- when you have a rebound relationship you are looking for someone who is the polar opposite. From the person aegis and -- west. Asset elected He had a bad break -- with a guy to. It had treated to never wanted to go out let's -- only wanted to sit around watching TV. So as soon as their relationship bands and you get back out there you're gonna be attracted to them looking for a guy too is going out all

study more than 70%. Of those who'd been deceitful in their past relationships . Had also had a rebound relationship . And also individuals who cheated on their significant others. Tended to seek a rebound so just because your dating someone who's been

experienced love at first sight. Have been involved in a rebound relationship . It's as if this person that your -- dating is a total romantic and falls in love on that time. Then that's a sign that your rebound relationship basically these are all signs. That someone. Is not doing the work on themselves. That they are either cheating taking risks deceit