The Friendship Quiz: Good Friend, Bad Friend?
There's an unspoken contract in friendship: You be there for me, I'll be there for you. But what if one of you isn't living up to her end of the deal? (What if it's you?) Sometimes it's okay to keep score, says Martha Beck. Just go through this who-does-what-for-whom list, and find out how you score.


 1. Initiate contact between the two of you (by calling, e-mailing, dropping by for a visit, sending an invitation to an event, etc.).

I do this for my friend:
My friend does this for me:
2. Create a supportive atmosphere, making a point of being cheerful, encouraging, and caring enough to make the other person feel good.

I do this for my friend:
My friend does this for me:
3. Prepare a special event (a dinner, birthday party, fun activity) for both of you to do together.

I do this for my friend:
My friend does this for me:
4. Stand up for the friend with other people; defend or support her when people aren't treating her well.

I do this for my friend:
My friend does this for me:
5. Focus on the other person's problems; offer empathy, understanding, kindness, comfort, and verbal reassurance.

I do this for my friend:
My friend does this for me:

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