There are many myths designed to tell you how you should wear your hair at your age. Were these ideals designed with "you" in mind, or are they generic rules that we are supposed to believe apply to all women your age? Wow, that’d be a lot of women with the same haircut!
Hairstylist to the stars Ken Paves offers some tips meant to influence, not restrict your own personal style.
Ken says he believes that a woman’s personal style evolves and changes as she embraces all that life has to offer her. "I find that many women I meet share many of the same personal goals at similar times in their lives, and I believe this influences their personal style," he says.
No matter what your age, it is most important to stay true to yourself, Ken says. "These are merely suggestions that I have noticed along the way that make my clients feel confident and beautiful. Embrace the moment and don’t hold onto the past. Feeling good about yourself gives you an incomparable glow that comes from the inside. Respect yourself and cherish every moment that has made you the beautiful woman you are today!"
Hairstyles for Your 20s
Women in their 20s are often more experimental, establishing their recent adulthood, Ken says. Have fun with your style!
Hair don’ts are definitely more forgiving at this age.
Ken says he doesn't usually recommend going to extremes, but if you are adventurous, now is the time. Establish what your likes and dislikes are. If you are a long-hair girl this would be a great time to go short.
Long, short, light or dark—wear it with confidence!
Jessica Simpson was 24 when Ken cut her long locks short!
Hairstyles for Your 30s
Women in their 30s are usually settling into their careers as mothers and/or in the workforce. In our 30s, we often are at a place where we want to prove ourselves and be taken seriously. Ken says he finds that most women are looking to reflect this.
Classic shapes that offer versatility work best here, Ken says—something that can take you from the office or home to a dinner out with the girls!
Many people say that the way a person keeps her home or car often reflects the state of their personal life; Ken says the same is to be said about your hair. If you want to be perceived as being together, then you do want a hairstyle that has clean lines and is well polished! Break away from your childhood style and embrace a chicer look!
Hairstyles for Your 40s
Women in their 40s usually begin to focus more on "maturing," Ken says. "I do believe that this is the time to begin to see things your way."
When we look into the mirror we all have likes and dislikes. Sadly, for most people it is easier to see their flaws than to recognize their beauty, he says.
In order to see things our way we must recognize both. After you have recognized both, it is time to create a hairstyle that reflects only the positives. This also means staying away from the extremes—nothing too short, too long, too light or too dark, Ken says.
The idea to cut hair short as women mature was because long hair tends to "pull" the face down. Cutting hair short was a quick remedy to this problem, although not the only solution. The same can be achieved through layering, which draws the face out and upward, Ken says. We all like an instant facelift!
"There is often a stability related to our 40s which reflects in our personal style," Ken says. "I find this to usually be the most conservative time in a woman's life—a time where she wants an easy style which gives her more time to enjoy life's richness!"
Hairstyles for Your 50s
As women grow into and beyond their 50s, they no longer have anything to prove, especially to anyone else, Ken says. There comes a point in a woman’s life where, Ken says, she realizes she has spent so much time trying to make everyone else happy and she wants to embrace the freedom that she has learned along the way and celebrate all the experiences that have made her who she is today!
"I often find my clients now re-embracing their flirty side," Ken says. "Remembering how empowering it is to be a woman; confident and beautiful!"
Keep in mind not to go to the extreme, he says. Find soft shapes, colors and styles that embrace how you feel on the inside. Softness around the face will help to soften lines and the appearance of mature skin.
"I find this to be a time when women want to embrace their feminine side and when they're willing to spend more time for themselves to feel better," Ken says.
Keep in mind all the considerations that apply as we mature, but definitely go for what makes you feel the best, he suggests. Ken recommends flirty, less-contrived styles and styles that move with you.
Soft, shiny hair always reflects youth. Mature hair tends to be coarser and dehydrated, Ken says. A soft color will add pigment to dull dry hair, giving it a youthful shine. A regular conditioning routine is a must!