As a pastor's child, Lorraine says she felt like she was expected to act a certain way. "I was a shape-shifter. Whatever you wanted me to be, that's what I'm going to be," she says. "I didn't want to embarrass my family, and I just wanted to do the best that I could in my role."
Lorraine says her people-pleasing tendencies carried over into her marriage. "I became what my husband wanted me to be. I was the mom for my kids. I went to work. Brought some money in the house," she says.
Lorraine says she has found a new sense of independence. "I'm 35 years old now, and I put my life on the back burner so that my husband could go to school, get his degree, get a good job. But now it's my turn, and I'm ready."