Yet, does your independence and freedom bring you any more happiness than the lack of it? We have visited many poverty-stricken countries and found immense happiness and freedom in the people, even though their physical lives were filled with hardship beyond measure. We have been in places where Deb had to wear a headscarf and long sleeves, where bare ankles are seen as more provocative than a bare midriff or where we had to be very careful of what we said. But always the genuine smiles and laughter that greeted us were overwhelming.
We are not saying that other cultures are freer than ours, but we constantly find ourselves coming back to asking: How do those of us in the land of the free actually find and express our freedom?
People tend to have a limited idea of what freedom means. There is a myth that freedom is unattainable, that it lies somewhere ahead of you, or that once you have done this and achieved that, then you can be free. And, yet, so often, as soon as this first obstacle is out of the way and freedom is looming close, another obstacle immediately comes along to delay it once more!
We were teaching a workshop outside of London when Marie told us she was very happy to be with us and was learning a great deal, but she knew she could not be at peace until her daughter was. She didn't get it until we shared that by first discovering your own inner peace, then you can help others to find theirs.
There is also the myth that happiness, independence and freedom are contingent on favorable external circumstances. Yet, you only have to look at examples, such as some of the Tibetan refugee prisoners held in jail by the Chinese for many years in the most atrocious of conditions, who later emerged from their captivity in a state of inner peace and tranquility to see that the freedom you really need to be talking about is not one that is dependent on external conditions, but is the freedom within you, regardless of circumstances.
How to find freedom within