Once upon a time, I suffered from Prince Harming Syndrome, the tendency to date men who were trouble or troubled. Immediately after a bad breakup with a seemingly nice doctor who I later discovered was also playing doctor with someone else, I kicked my addiction to these kinds of men.
Now I'm engaged to a man I trust implicitly and vice versa. Just the same, my fiancé empathetically offered me his e-mail password when I confessed I still had pesky leftover "mistrust issues."
In our high-tech world, it's easy to have mistrust issues. Online dating sites make it easy for people to have their cake and eat it too, even right smack in front of you. Some partners are known to boldly text or e-mail the other woman, even while in bed with their spouses!
Admittedly, men aren't the only ones who cheat. A recent study* revealed 18 percent of married women have cheated on their spouse. Men, however, seem to still outnumber the ladies—28 percent say they've cheated on their wives. Interestingly enough, marriage counselor M. Gary Newman reported in his 2008 study that 88 percent of men who've cheated said the other women were no better looking or in no better shape than their own wives. While this may be good news for the egos of those women who have been cheated on, it's also confusing and begs the question:
Why do men cheat anyway? I have some thoughts.