- Notice when your feelings of being not good enough or of unworthiness show up.
In other words, pay attention to when the question, "Who do you think you are?" stops you in your tracks and takes you out of the game of your life. When you're able to notice this, be honest about and have some compassion for yourself, you can take your power back from your Gremlin in those moments and step more fully into who you really are.
- Ask yourself more deeply, "Who do you think you are?"
Go deeper with this question, beyond the judgment, and really inquire about how you relate to yourself. What's your story? The more honest you can be about the story you have about yourself, the easier it is for you to acknowledge it, own it and ultimately change it. Remember, these stories are not "true"—they are simply your interpretations, judgments and beliefs. You created them, so you have the power to transform them at any time.
- Upgrade your story about yourself.
In the specific areas of your life where your story is not empowering, inspiring or fulfilling, see if you're willing and able to "upgrade" it in an authentic way. This basically means you change your thoughts, words and feelings about your story in a genuine way. Because people often get so attached to their stories and tend to defend them passionately, this upgrading process can be challenging. It sometimes takes support, feedback and coaching from others in order for you to move beyond your story and remember that you have the power to upgrade it whenever you're ready.
Mike Robbins is a best-selling author, sought-after motivational keynote speaker and personal growth expert who works with people and groups of all kinds. Robbins is the author of the best-selling books Focus on the Good Stuff and Be Yourself: Everyone Else Is Already Taken. He and his work have been featured on ABC News, in Forbes, Ladies Home Journal, Self and many others.
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