7. "When will I feel better?"
If a friend is suffering, it's tempting to tell her that everything will be okay in a month, in a week, tomorrow at noon, right now
. Except really, who knows the magic equation of when heartbreak heals, when grieving stops? Putting a time limit on grieving is dishonest and unfair. The only comforting thing to say is, "I don't know. I don't know when you will feel better. But I know that you will.
Amy Shearn is the author of The Mermaid of Brooklyn: A Novel
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