No matter where you live, there are now many online services that offer various rituals to help the newly divorced gain a better sense of closure. For example, WeddingRingCoffin.com sells a literal way to bury your past—placing your wedding ring contraband into a tiny coffin. There are a lot of funny symbolic breakup cakes available online too. The upside-down wedding cake from Sprinkles Custom Cakes in Florida stars the bride on top, and the groom buried beneath the cake with just his little Ferragamo-clad feet sticking out! Yes, it can also be made with a buried bride.
There are a growing number of divorce gift products on the market. You can find a wide (and hysterical) range of greeting cards, T-shirts, mugs and bumper stickers—perfect to send or give away at your divorce party. Here are a few of my favorites from the slogans I've seen:
"I do. I did. I'm done."
"Divorced happily ever after."
"Breaking new ground at rock bottom."
"Divorce: It's the new black."
"Ask me to show you my happy divorce dance."
"Wife goes on."
Divorce lawyer Leon Borstein of Borstein & Sheinbaum strongly encourages his clients to try their best to end things as amicably as possible. "It's a shame the divorce system here in New York isn't a no-fault system—thereby requiring couples to say bad things about their spouse in order to speed along a divorce. It's not only bad emotionally for the couple, but potentially for the children," says Borstein. "I strongly believe it's important for divorcing couples with children to recognize that there's no such thing as an 'absolute' divorce. You will always be in each other's lives—at soccer games, graduations, marriages, baby showers—you name it. Hence it's helpful for divorcing couples to have the 'move-on gene.' If divorce ceremonies are performed with the right spirit, they could be of true service to couples, helping them to move on."
If you're going through a divorce, you might want to consider performing some ritualistic rites of passage to help increase your chances of forgiving and forgetting past wrongs so you can make sure you're facing forward to a new, improved future!
Karen Salmansohn is a best-selling author known for creating self-help for people who wouldn't be caught dead reading self-help. Get more information on finding a loving, happier-ever-after relationship in her book Prince Harming Syndrome.
More Reading from Karen Salmansohn:
How to recover from Prince Harming
8 ways to forgive and forget
How to know and grow your potential
Ready to find love? Create a love teleology!