Family shadow beliefs can appear without warning. Chris found the holidays particularly trying, but was able to uncover the family shadow beliefs that cause her undo stress during the holidays.
Chris' Family Shadow Beliefs Uncovered
Chris revealed to Debbie that her brother had been killed one week before Christmas and was buried the day before Christmas Eve. She felt that she should have done something to prevent his death. As a child, Chris also convinced herself that she would be able to prevent her father's violent rages, and in turn, protect her mother if only she kept the house clean or did her homework.
Chris' shadow belief was "I am responsible for everything." Thirty years of trying to take responsibility for things completely out her control have left her feeling responsible whenever anything goes wrong.
How She Healed
Life coach Debbie Ford offered the following actions for Chris to overcome her own.