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You've tried it all—blind dates, online dating, singles' nights and speed dating. But have you created a soul mate wish list to find your one and only? Arielle Ford shows you how finding your life partner might be just like ordering your favorite coffee drink.
Once upon a time, little girls were told fairy tales
About handsome princes with magical kisses
Who would ride up on a white stallion and whisk them away
To the land called Happily Ever After.
Then reality struck.
The white stallion was a beat-up old car
And the prince turned out to be a jerk
Happily Ever After seemed to be a never, Neverland.
Then one smart and sassy princess decided to do some research.
She discovered prayers, meditations, intentions and rituals
Potent enough to manifest anything and everything her heart desired.
First she used it to get a parking space.
Next she started a business and built a big, fun career.
Then she created a nonprofit and raised a million dollars for homeless women.
Finally she used all her manifestation tools to land a soul mate.
Not just any soul mate; the best soul mate ever!
And in the process she discovered that happily ever after is really possible after all.
This is no storybook fairy tale; it's a page out of my own life story, and it has a real-life happy ending. For the past 12 years, my soul mate, Brian, and I have been blissfully married. But I have to admit that there were moments along the way when I doubted he would ever come.
Even though I had an amazing life, wonderful friends and a successful career, at 43 I found myself still single with no real prospects for romance. In a moment of inspiration, I decided to see if all the manifestation tools and techniques I had successfully used in my business would work in my love life. The first thing I did was invest some time, energy, attention and intention into creating what I call a Soul Mate Wish List. It may sound simple on the surface, but you'll be surprised by the wealth of information this one exercise will reveal.
Making the list requires hanging out in your heart long enough to hear what it is you most desire in a life partner. It also requires a leap of faith. Once you've clarified your unique goals, preferences and tastes, you have to cultivate the trust that the one you've asked for is on the way. Think of it this way:
When you walk into your favorite coffeehouse, you confidently tell the barista, "I will have a tall, half-caf, low-fat mocha latte, with a splash of nonsugar vanilla syrup to go." The barista smiles, writes your order on the side of a cup and takes your money. Within minutes you are walking out the door with the precise, delicious cup of coffee that you ordered. Ordering up a soul mate from the universe works in a similar way. It demands a bit more thought and it's not always as instantaneous, but it can be just as precise. However, here's the key to unlocking the full manifestation powers of the universe: You must clearly place your order.
If you're like most people, you're probably pretty clear about what you don't want in a partner, but attracting your soul mate doesn't work that way. You must ask for what you do want, and this is where your Soul Mate Wish List comes in. By identifying what's really important to you, you'll begin to send out a strong and consistent signal that will draw to you a partner who has values and goals that are similar to yours. If, however, you get caught in the trap of "keeping all your options open," you may confuse the cosmic order-taker as to what it is you really want.
Start thinking about what you want in a soul mate