It's easy to feel gratitude when good things happen…but what about dealing with a devastating blow? Denise says she was once a very positive person with what seemed like a charmed life. "A supermom, a wife, beautiful boys, a nice home," she says. "Just a really good, good life."
When her son was diagnosed with cancer, she says everything changed. After about a year and a half of fighting the disease, he died at age 18. Shortly after that, Denise's husband left. "He wasn't happy, and he wanted to start his life over and felt it was too much pain," she says. "When he left, just everything crumbled. And it's surreal. You just almost can't believe that it's actually happening. I felt like I was just waking up from a nightmare."
Denise says her despair was so bad that she was on the verge of suicide. "I literally had his pain medication, a bunch of pills, in my hand," she says.
Then, Denise says she felt the pills being knocked from her hand and heard the words of her late son in her head. "He said, 'Mom, I was here as a gift for you, and you have to go on with your life,'" she says. "I felt his presence around me—that warmth, that comforting feeling of someone standing with you."
Denise says dealing with the twin blows of her son dying and her husband leaving left her with so much pain and so many questions. "It's hard to see that you can do something more with your life. You think God doesn't love you, and why are you going through all these things?"
While watching the movie You Can Heal Your Own Life, based on Louise's book, Denise says she found herself relating to the main character—a woman who was completely withdrawn from the world. "I saw her and I thought, 'Oh, my God. That's me,'" she says.
The film made her realize that she needed to forgive her husband, which she did on his birthday. "I said, 'Good morning. I just want to wish you a happy birthday and hope you're having a beautiful life because I know I am. And I know I'm on that path,'" she says. "It was like a weight lifted from me."
Louise says Denise should prepare herself to live again. "You have no idea what's in store for you," she says. "The most wonderful adventures are coming."
Susan from the audience asks for clarification on the difference between an intention and a wish or dream.
Cheryl says the biggest difference between the two is how they originate. "A wish is often coming from what isn't working in your life. Like, 'I wish I would win the lottery because I'm in debt. I wish I would meet a partner because I'm lonely and I don't feel comfortable living alone.'"
"An intention is a soul goal, not a head goal," she says. "My prayer is always, 'If this is in the highest and best interest for me and those around me, then please allow it to happen.' And that sort of is a humble way of saying it's not just about me and what my head thinks because I'm a physical being and I'm having a physical experience. It is also about me and this greater energy, this greater creative force, and that's where an intention is set from."
Martha says she has an even simpler way of knowing whether something is a wish or an intention. "What I found is that if you really want something, it makes you feel physically stronger," she says. "And if you think you want it but you don't really want it, it makes you feel physically weaker."
One thing many parents wonder is how they can raise children to grow up living with of the law of attraction.
Twelve-year-old Dominique and 9-year-old Brittany are sisters already are! They've even created their own vision boards. "The law of attraction is a way of life. The way you think. The way you react to situations," Dominique says. "If you're a positive person, you get positive results. If you're a negative person, you get negative results."
"On my vision board are some of my long-term goals," Brittany says. She's included things like becoming a fashion designer, visiting the Great Wall of China and meeting Johnny Depp.
Dominique says the law of attraction is good for more than just long-term goals. "During school, I try to keep a positive attitude with my friends," she says. "Because I notice that if I'm negative, then I'll attract negative things and negative people during the day. So I try to keep a positive attitude."
Dominique's vision board includes places she would like to go in her life, like Rome and England, and people she wants to meet, like the Dalai Lama. One of her vision board goals just came true…she wanted to be on The Oprah Winfrey Show!
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