1. Perfection is attainable. Our Penobscot Bay Ginger Cookie recipe was given to us by my surrogate grandmother, Cherie. She lives on an island in Penobscot Bay, off the coast of Downeast Maine. The recipe calls for the usual things: butter, brown sugar, an egg, molasses, baking soda, cloves, cinnamon, ginger, salt. But then there's a twist: chopped crystallized ginger. The cookies are chewy and gooey, crunchy on the edges, and the little pieces of ginger burst like tiny bombs on the tongue. Without a doubt, these are the best damn holiday cookies we've ever tasted. They taste as you might imagine the word "Christmas" would taste, if it were edible. And each time they come out right, I am giddily grateful that I, a mere mortal, can make something not just good but downright perfect.
2. The problem with trying to attain something as maddeningly elusive as "perfection" is that you may go crazy in the process. Unfortunately, this Penobscot Bay Ginger Cookie recipe never quite works. Each year, with the 25th bearing down on Dan and me, we find that despite the careful notes we made the year before, despite the undaunted chutzpah with which we've rolled up our sleeves, the recipe requires more jiggering, more additions of thisses or thats and more frustrating moments hovering over a hot oven while batch after batch doesn't come out quite right. Finally, at around midnight on the 22nd, we're about to either kill each other or throw our cookie pans out the window. But then we get it right. And each year, like suckers, we are so grateful—indeed, we feel so stupidly touched by grace we are actually gleeful.
3. Presentation isn't everything. Days before I start baking, I start looking for tins. I want tins that somehow accentuate that these oddly shaped, dark, squishy cookies are a gift, not just some holiday craziness from an aunt who's been sipping too much parsnip wine. One year, I went to thrift shops, hoping I'd find "antique"-looking old tins and recycle them. But people do not, sadly, donate nice old cookie tins. Another year, at 11 p.m. on the 22nd, I found myself standing in line at a Christmas-ravaged Walmart, buying generic lime green tins with red Santas "ho-ho-hoing" away on the tops—those laughing Santas were mocking my pain. Last year, I found reusable (but decidedly bland) Pyrex containers at the hardware store. And though I've never found quite the right vessel, I've learned that the only thing that matters is that our cookies eventually do arrive.
4. It's true what Hallmark says: The gift really is in giving. In a way, these cookies have come to define "Cait and Dan." The stories trickle back from family members and friends: that there were tears of delight because once again we'd done it; that someone got into bed with the whole tin the day after Christmas and polished off every cookie while reading a new book (I think that was my mother); and, once, that an argument erupted between two family members over who got the last cookie in the tin. When I hear these stories, I am reminded that we gave something special, something no one but us could give.
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