Most of us don't recognize the signs of stress until they've become too much to handle. But registering what each level feels like by building a stress meter can help you let off steam at a point well below "she's ready to blow!"
Print the stress meter here to gauge your emotions
Plot Your Stressors
For each of the seven levels in the meter, choose one word that describes your stress in increasing degrees of intensity. With zero representing complete calm, plot your words in order of rising stress.
Next, think of an event from your past that sparked each emotion—a fight with your mother that left you frustrated, a passive-aggressive e-mail from a coworker that made you anxious, an argument with your partner that pushed you over the edge. What was your physical response in these situations? Were you pacing, sweating, clenching your jaw, biting your nails, muttering to yourself? Jot the details on your scale next to the word that describes how you felt.
Take a minute to think back on all seven of your stress scenarios and identify the point at which you felt yourself losing control. Now go two levels below that: This is your new action point. When a stressful situation escalates to this level, you'll know you need to find a release.
Exercise created by Ronald Potter-Efron, PhD
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From the August 2012 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine
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