"Seriously, Why Is This Happening to Me?"

Illustration: Jen Troyer

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After your primal scream, get analytical. What's really going on here? Hyperstress is usually created by a combination of circumstance and personal choice. Look for patterns. Do you habitually assume too much responsibility, fail to communicate, forget to rest? Tracking these decisions is like analyzing the black box after a plane crash: It won't erase the present situation, but it can improve the future. Which brings us to...