This one is the hardest of all: Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself not just for what has happened in the past, but for all the things that will happen in the year ahead. Look, unless you happen to be, say, Kate Middleton, it's likely that you haven't been perfect this year. You weren't patient every minute, you weren't generous at every chance, you were sometimes lacking in courage and occasionally unkind. You haven't done everything you wanted to do. But that's okay. You are trying. And you will continue to make mistakes in the future. And that will be okay, too. So make an ambitious life list.
Plan wonderful things. And preforgive yourself for the missteps you are bound to make, the times you will balk, the interactions in which you will be grumpy, the chances you may fail to take, the opportunities you will miss, the times you will fail spectacularly. The times you will fail mundanely. The frustrations you will take out on others, on yourself. Forgive yourself, so that you can try great new things. Make your own confidence possible.
Amy Shearn is the author of The Mermaid of Brooklyn: A Novel