Oprah: So what do you know for sure about who you are?

Maria: I'm a good-hearted person. I think I'm a kind woman. I'm a loyal friend. I'm also funny and a little mischievous! I've learned that it's okay for me to show up in a gypsy skirt with my hair somewhat askew. I'm comfortable with that now. I don't need to change people's minds about me. For me, letting go of that is just huge. I know that I'm a deeply spiritual person. I know that I need to surround myself with people who see me, nourish me, and love me for me, and I can even have the courage to ask for that. I know that I've learned how to be a mother and a daughter differently. After my mother got sick, I tried to get her out of the hospital and back on her feet as fast as possible. Then I began to consider: What if I try something completely different? What if I acknowledge that perhaps my mother doesn't like having a nurse and feeling dependent? That maybe she's afraid, that this is scary to her? And what if I hold her hand? So sometimes I just sit and paint her nails or hold her hand. These little acts of nurturing have led me to be not only more kind to her but more gentle with myself.

Oprah: That's right—because you are enough.

Maria: Even if I never accomplish another thing.


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