How to Stay in Touch
I don't often get to see or even talk to my closest friends from various stages of life (including the 16 who were my bridesmaids). But I stay connected with them—and the thousands of others in my BlackBerry. The key is managing your friending: The more organized and accessible your friends' information, the easier it is to stay in touch. So you have to set calendar reminders for birthdays (I do it for anniversaries, too), and keep your address book up-to-date. And when someone pops into your mind, let them know,
even if it's just with a "Thinking of you" text. Don't let the moment pass; treat it as a reminder to reach out.
—Alexandra Wilkis Wilson, cofounder of the five-million-member Gilt Groupe; keeper of 16,500 BlackBerry contacts
How to Make New Friends—at Any Age
I tell my patients, "Food, alcohol, and drugs are no substitute for a relationship." If you're lonely, do something about it. If you love the arts, take a course at your local community college. And if you can't find a place to get involved, create one. Besides seeing patients several times a week, I'm thinking about starting a group where immigrantsand refugees can talk about their feelings. It's important to be part of a community!
—Hedda Bolgar, 103-year-old practicing psychoanalyst and cofounder of the Hedda Bolgar Psychotherapy Clinic, in Los Angeles
How to Get the First Lady's Arms
Twice a week, spend 15 minutes strengthening and toning. Start with this routine, varying the number of reps at every workout.
Get Michelle Obama’s full routine
—Cornell McClellan, personal trainer for the First Family
The Secret to Trying New Things
People say it's gross that I eat grubs and goat liver, but if you haven't tried it, how do you know? Our brains tell us lies, and if we listen, we cost ourselves surprises. When trying something new, cast off your fear and expectations.
—Andrew Zimmern, host of Travel Channel's Bizarre Foods America
Simple Ways to Look Polished
Start with a great haircut, neat nails, and well-shaped eyebrows (if eyes are the windows to the soul, eyebrows are the frames). Invest in a tailor—and in a few no-fail items that will help you look pulled together: a crisp white shirt, a pencil skirt, a great-fitting shift dress (just add shoes and go!), a tissue-weight scarf, and the perfect jacket. Whether it's a black blazer with a structured shoulder and nipped-in waist or a little leather jacket that looks great over anything, the right jacket projects confidence. And isn't that what polished really means?
—Adam Glassman, O creative director
How to Crave Less Sugar
The degree to which you crave sweets is partly inherited. But you can retrain your palate to appreciate the subtlety of natural sweetness—in foods like peaches, sweet potatoes, and plums. Next time you need a sugar fix, reach for one of nature's treats instead of candy or cake; the more you do, the stronger the habit will become. Eventually, you'll no longer feel the need to dump three packets of sugar in your tea.
—Mehmet Oz, MD, host of The Dr. Oz Show
How to Order at a Restaurant
Go for what you can't make at home: pigeon, frogs legs, halibut...
But beware of the too-adventurous item. It won't always be the best or most practiced dish.
Be a little particular and complimentary, and a server will go out of his way for you. As we like to say, nice gets nice.
—Drew Nieporent, restaurateur (Tribeca Grill, Nobu, Centrico)
How to Find an Extra $100 in Your Monthly Budget
Ready to play a game I call Want or Need? Here's how: Run through your monthly budget (if you need to, you can use the free Expense Tracker at suzeorman.com
) and highlight all the expenses that are "wants" (anything you do not literally need to survive; please be honest!). Then start cutting those costs by 10 percent—scaling back the cable plan a tier, going out for fewer meals—until you're left with $100 extra. To trim even further, check for discounts before you make a purchase. Sites like couponcabin.com
(which offer printable coupons and promo codes on everything from groceries to diapers) and apps like Pic2Shop (scan a bar code with your phone, and the app searches for online or local retailers selling it cheaper) can save you big.
—Suze Orman, host of The Suze Orman Show
How to Rock Your Shapewear
I don't leave home without my Spanx. Normally I wear a large, but for an evening event, I'll squeeze into a medium. When I want to let it all hang out (even then, you don't want panty lines), I'll go for an extra large! But when desperate times call for desperate measures, I'll wear two pairs in a large. I'm not saying it's comfortable, but it's effective!
—Gayle King, O editor at large and cohost of CBS This Morning
How to Know When to Quit
After my first book was published in 2000, I spent two and a half years writing a novel. But it never felt right. I didn't even name it—it was the poor, misshapen beast child I kept hidden under my bed. Then I showed it to my agent. "None of the things you do well are in evidence here," she said. I was devastated, then relieved: I had failed, and now I could stop. If you don't feel a shiver of excitement or fear, if there's no emotional risk involved, let it go. You can't discount how hard it will be to leave your bad marriage or stop writing your bad book, but if you're unhappy, nothing can get better as long as the status quo stays the status quo.
—Elissa Schappell, author of Blueprints for Building Better Girls