How to Sleep Together
You need to compromise. He gets to have the window open; she gets an electric blanket. The person who falls asleep to the TV uses headphones; the person who needs total darkness uses a mask. If she goes to bed later, she puts on her pajamas early, so she's not loudly opening dresser drawers. Blanket thieves get their own duvet, and snorers can seek medical intervention—or buy their partner a pillow under which to bury her head. And make your bedroom a sanctuary. Paint walls pale blue or green; remove all stimuli (books, gadgets, photos); light candles with a comforting scent; never keep a desk in the room. This is the place where you engage in your most intimate communication, both verbally and physically. So take the time to make it conducive to both activities.
—Bonnie Goldstein, PHD, and Loren Judaken, leaders of the Better Sleep Habits seminar at the Oaks at Ojai spa