She drives her four children—5, 10, 11 and 13 years old—here, there and everywhere and doesn't believe the drug impairs her ability to drive safely, even as she tells me that her heart races at times so fast it feels like it's going to jump out of her chest. She's also afraid she'll die. Some of Caitlin's family members know about her struggle, but they just don't know what to do to help.
Supermom? No. But I understand the effort, the drive and the ambition to do it all better than anyone else. I meet moms, sisters and daughters who have taken their kids to the doctor to get fraudulent prescriptions for Adderall all in the name of staying on top of it all!
It's time to reframe the pressures and expectations in human terms. And if you or someone you love, like Caitlin, is stuck in a relationship with a pill bottle, it's time to open up and consider initiating change.None of us are superhuman. So the drive to be that, and the pills that we hope will make that happen, are lies. You need to eat, sleep, connect and have loving relationships in your life. As creatures of both habit and change, everyone is a part of some group, family, clan or circle of support.
Beginning to change doesn't mean you're no good—it just means you can be better and get healthier. The root of strong relationships is honesty and the ability to help another in a tough spot. Understanding your family strengths and weaknesses brings clarity and focus to how you can best navigate relationships and help someone you love get better.
If you're going to help change someone you love, you must tap into your family's unique strengths and divorce yourself from the notion that you are best served by going it alone. There is strength in numbers, so circle the wagons! Give and receive help.
All of this advances the journey toward change and helps people open the doors of their heart. Remember: Change someone you love, and you profoundly change your life too.
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