Dr. Phil says that forgiveness is what you do for yourself, not for other people. When you forgive, it doesn't mean that you approve of what's happened; instead, it means that you're giving yourself permission to move on with your life.
Dr. Phil's Advice to Cope with the Past
The pain of what happened is inevitable, but continuing to suffer is optional.
For some people, making peace happens suddenly and spontaneously. For others, it takes much effort and time. There is no "right" timeline for recovery.
Find meaning in what happened. Discover some wisdom from your experience, and share it with others.
Don't expect a success-only journey. People can thrive and suffer at the same time.
While the pain may never completely disappear, you can find a new sense of strength and a renewed appreciation for life, as long as you're willing to make the effort.