If you feel you're with someone highly supportive—a friend with whom you want to more freely share your experience—be sure to check in with them first, saying something like: "I must confess what I went through is a very emotional experience. If you have an hour, I'd love to share it with you." That way you guard against the disappointment of not being able to share in the way you had hoped.
Siebert also reminds that it's okay to decide not to share anything at all. You can simply tell people, "Thanks for asking, but I don't care to talk about it right now."
Another helpful NLP technique is to dilute strongly negative words. Try to stop saying things like:
I'm also a big believer that who you think you are actually manifests who you will be. Your beliefs will create the actions and habits you choose. During a challenging time, it's essential to view yourself as a strong person—capable of bouncing back stronger than ever! With this in mind, I recommend during tough times, you enter what I humorously call the "Identity Protection Program!" Own one of the following identities as yours:
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