Siebert also reminds that it's okay to decide not to share anything at all. You can simply tell people, "Thanks for asking, but I don't care to talk about it right now."
Another helpful NLP technique is to dilute strongly negative words. Try to stop saying things like:
- I'm furious!
- I'm devastated!
- I'm completely crushed.
- I'm a bit miffed.
- I'm disappointed.
- I'm surprised.
I'm also a big believer that who you think you are actually manifests who you will be. Your beliefs will create the actions and habits you choose. During a challenging time, it's essential to view yourself as a strong person—capable of bouncing back stronger than ever! With this in mind, I recommend during tough times, you enter what I humorously call the "Identity Protection Program!" Own one of the following identities as yours:
- I'm the type of person who makes the world say yes to me.
- I'm an indomitable spirit, a phoenix rising from the ashes. Nothing keeps me down!
- A lesser person would crumble right now. Not moi!
- When life throws me curveballs, I hit 'em outta the park!
Karen Salmansohn is a best-selling author known for creating self-help for people who wouldn't be caught dead reading self-help. Get more information on finding a loving happier-ever-after relationship in her book Prince Harming Syndrome.
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