Over the ensuing weeks, Avery tells me that the effects of a single horse session have radically changed her life. When her children misbehave, instead of hearing her mother's angry voice from her own mouth, Avery remembers the moment she scared Ernie, and speaks more kindly. When her husband storms, instead of arguing or groveling, Avery gives him permission to leave, if that's what he wants (suddenly, it isn't). At work, she's dropped the shrill energy that comes from fearing she can't lead, and tapped into the calm authority that made Ernie trust her.
Avery has begun leading her own life, without checking to see who follows. Paradoxically, now people do—because they want to. Her children have started confiding in her, rather than tensing when she asks questions. Avery confronts Tyler about his drinking without rage or fear, and he admits he has a problem. At the office, Avery projects calm authority, rather than devolving into exploding-doormat tantrums.
I've seen Koelle guide angry people toward peace, help shy people blossom into confidence. I've seen her teach a warring couple to find the love they'd lost. In this pen, Koelle and her horses have helped people let go, heal, and see themselves clearly. If I had my way, everyone would get to spend time with this gentle woman and her animal friends. In conversation with these intuitive creatures, we'd find the power to be as kind, playful, and beautiful as they are.
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