— Estelle C., Dublin, Ireland
I think most readers would immediately react by wondering why you don't simply go back to what worked before. Your problem is one of remaining centered. When you were alone, you were aligned with your inner world. That gave you a clear path to your intentions. Now your intentions are confused and conflicted. Your desires have become mingled with your family's. You have taken on burdens that aren't your own, and so it's no wonder life has become a struggle and a story of constant effort.
But I think the answer isn't to go back. The same invisible support that once made your life easier can do the same again. The issue has to do with strength. You need to strengthen your awareness. There is a deeper reason for the situation you are in now. It is to show you that your hold was fragile when you could be isolated and alone. Life is meant to be lived with others, and the greatest fulfillment comes from contributing to all of humanity. If you become stronger in yourself, you can lead a life of spontaneous fulfillment even with greater outside pressures.
With that goal in mind, set up a program for getting back in touch with your deepest self. You need some alone time every day. You need to practice meditation and, if possible, yoga. It would be helpful to find a support group. I'm sure your family isn't in touch with you on these issues. They don't have to be, but you do need to find others who understand the spiritual path and will keep you on it.
If you pursue this program, not only will you find your center once more, but your hold on it will become stronger and stronger.
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