— Rhonda C., Jersey City, New Jersey
Well, that's how love is. It creates pain and joy at the same time, and for the same reason, because deeper aspects of ourselves are brought to light. The openness that love brings, if you are lucky, isn't just being open to the best things in life. You also feel like a child again, and that brings a sense of need that is very vulnerable.
I also paused on our word "unconditional." Nobody loves you unconditionally who has only known you for 16 months. It's a lovely promise and a desirable goal, but you're not there yet. Some part of you knows this. You aren't a teenager, and you've fallen in and out of love before.
So my advice is to look at your feelings as the normal turmoil of love and press ahead. When someone asks, "How do I find the right one," my answer is: "Don't look for the right one. Be the right one." The same words hold true for you.
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