How to Change Your Worrying Ways
Worried belief: The world is unsafe. It's only natural to worry.
Better belief: You can still be safe in an unsafe world. By making your personal situation safe, you add to the world's overall security.
Worried belief: Life is full of accidents and random bad things. I have to be on the lookout for them.
Better belief: Accidents can be prevented with useful measures like wearing a seat belt and not living in a flood zone. Once the precaution is in place, there's nothing more to do. By definition, unpredictable things cannot be foreseen.
Worried belief: You inherited the worry gene. You can't help it.
Better belief: You learned how to worry, so you can unlearn how to worry. It's a habit rooted in your sense of insecurity. By becoming more secure in yourself, you can gain control over your fears.
In addition, a recovering worrier should write down certain basic facts and consult the list regularly to see if their belief system is starting to match reality.
Worriers, like other anxious people, don't understand why their fears seemingly come out of the blue. “I wasn’t doing anything. I was having a normal day, when suddenly I was hit by this certainty that something bad was going to happen.” The hidden element is that anxious people need to be vigilant all the time. So when things settle down, it’s only a matter of time before they notice they aren't being vigilant. Anxiety jumps to the "rescue," putting them back into their familiar groove.
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