How to Be Happy, Dammit!
So if you want to change your outer world, you must first change your internal mental programming. When you try to change the external world first, it's like trying to change the picture on a TV screen by rubbing that picture with a cloth. You can rub, and rub, and rub—but it's futile, baby.
However...when you change your mental programming—who you are thinking you are and what you are thinking you deserve—you find the world around you changes simultaneously.