Each week, spiritual teacher Deepak Chopra responds to Oprah.com users' questions with enlightening advice to help them live their best lives.
Q: I have walked the self-help path a number of times, and I recognize the difficulty in maintaining inner strength, peace and security. I am currently at a loss in my life—with myself and career—and I realize my lack of self-worth affects my presentation to my relationships and the outside world.
How does one keep their focus when their self-worth is broken and they walk in an emotionally abusive relationship? How does one take control of their life and create a beautiful harmony with the universe? How does one teach their children to believe they create their own reality and life and to strive for greatness, when the "teacher's" life is one of chaos, no direction and insecurity? Where does a person start? How does one create heaven on earth for themselves and their family and people around them?
I realize I am all over the map. Clearly, I lack personal direction—I am aware of that. It is just frustrating because it is always easier said than done. Please enlighten; there has to be some place a person can start, which I know is myself. Perhaps you could recommend some books? I just wish I could have one of those aha! experiences so I know what my role in this world is supposed to be. And no, I am not crazy, or on drugs, just a genuinely confused adult who really does not get where her place in the universe is yet. Thanks for allowing me to write from the heart. I truly do appreciate this opportunity—never done anything like this before.
— Nancy P., Vancouver, Canada
Your letter shows you are in touch with your confusion, which many confused people aren't. There are several starting points, but they all have in common that they are realistic. Your aspirations have become confused by reading so many books. So let's say no more spiritual books for a year. All they are doing is allowing you to build castles in the air. Here are some realistic steps that will actually be of benefit:
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Deepak Chopra is the author of more than 50 books on health, success, relationships and spirituality, including his current best-seller, Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul, and The Ultimate Happiness Prescription, which are available now. You can listen to his show on Saturdays every week on SiriusXM Channels 102 and 155.
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Published on May 12, 2010