"I'm tired," said Melissa, a 42-year-old marketing manager.
"What are you tired of?" I asked.
"I'm tired of searching for my purpose," she replied.
"Searching is tiring," I said.
"I just want to give up," she said.
"I recommend you give up immediately," I said.
"What do you mean?" asked Melissa, looking startled.
"I want you to give up searching outside of yourself for your purpose."
The purpose of your life is to discover who you are. It is to meet yourself and to identify what you are made of and what you are made for. To do this, you have to be willing to give yourself some special attention. You have to stop "going" "doing" and "chasing" and start spending more time "being" with yourself. You have to connect consciously with what I call your unconditioned self, the original essence of who you are. Your unconditioned self wants you to know yourself. It wants you to know who you really are.
Exercise 2: Book a meeting with yourself, and explore this question, "From 0 to 10, how alive do I feel?" Zero represents "the living dead," and 10 represents "100 percent alive." Notice how alive you feel in your life right now, and identify what would help you to feel even more alive. In particular, name specifically what inspires you and what motivates you to show up in your life each day. To live your purpose, you have to dare to be even more of who you really are.
A call to joy