Build Your Community
Follow the process outlined below to find like-minded people who are anxious to make your acquaintance.
Characteristics and questions to ask during this process
- Create a "profile" of your ideal relationship/candidate. Include as many details and characteristics as possible.
- Identify how you need to grow to fit the profile personally.
Are there qualities that you need to develop within yourself? Remember that like attracts like. Be sure you're not looking for someone to fill a void that needs to be filled by you. If you're looking for someone with a high level of integrity, be sure that you're working to raise your integrity level as well. If you'd like a friend who is creative, you might want to look at how you're expressing creativity in your own life. The more you focus on developing the qualities that are important to you, the better the chances are of attracting a friend who shares your values and goals.
- Identify what might be keeping you from developing deeper relationships.
- I'm afraid that a new friend may reject me.
- I'm too shy.
- I'm not sure where or how to meet new people.
- I feel embarrassed about wanting new friends.
- I'm too busy
- It will take too long to build the history a good relationship needs
- Choose a friend, family member, or co-worker who best fits your profile.
Review what you've listed. Can you do this for several people? Let this friend know you want to spend more "quality" time together. Get together and risk sharing more of who you are and how you feel.