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Q: I have one child, a beautiful 2 1/2-year-old daughter. I'm feeling the responsibility to be prepared to teach her about spirituality, and I want her to have respect for different belief systems. I have a profound awareness of God and an unyielding belief that he is watching over me and my family. I link to him daily. I think that the stories of Christianity and Jesus Christ are beautiful and majestic, but I can't say that I believe them. I feel cynical about organized religion, and I currently do not attend church, yet feel the obligation of having her "dedicated" or baptized. I would like her to know the stories of the Bible, though I've not read the Bible myself, and honestly, I have no interest in doing so. This obligation I feel is part of the social norm, I'm sure. I also feel: "Why not have her baptized...just in case? It couldn't hurt." Then I feel like a hypocrite.
The manifestation of spirituality for me is more aligned to charitable work, living simply, giving, loving my family and creating a fabulous person in my daughter. Also, I am a work in progress and want to be a better wife, mother and neighbor. I've come to this spiritual awareness only recently, more so as a result of being turned off by religious people at different points in my life, and I've now tried to carve my own path. I'm just not sure that the spiritual path that I'm cultivating is where my daughter should start. Where do I begin? Where do I begin in teaching her about religious beliefs, particularly since I am not compelled to participate in a religious group?
— Trina C., Springville, Utah
Because your question is stated in such global terms—you'd like to know a great deal about parenting and spirituality—let me start out by saying that you might benefit from reading an entire book on the subject. I wrote one called The Seven Spiritual Laws for Parents, but there are quite a few others. My specific aim was to dispel the belief that practical life and spiritual life are separate, or even opposed. Instead, the more spiritual you are, if your growth is based on self-awareness and the expansion of consciousness, the more you will attain life's greatest rewards. You will become a success on your own terms, whatever they are.
Now to the specifics of your question. I feel that you are being pulled in two directions. You want to guide and shape your child, but you are aware that letting her become her own person is just as important—welcome to the dilemmas of parenting. This pull is natural, confusing and it won't go away. But there are some caveats as you work your way to a solution that balances guidance and freedom:
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Deepak Chopra is the author of more than 50 books on health, success, relationships and spirituality, including his current best-seller, Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul, and The Ultimate Happiness Prescription, which are available now. You can listen to his show on Saturdays every week on SiriusXM Channels 102 and 155.
Published on February 17, 2010