You have the capacity to be uncomfortable—you've been doing it your entire life (learning to walk, talk, ride a bike, drive a car and do work). However, instead of trying to survive the uncomfortable aspects of life, what if you embraced them, acknowledged yourself for your willingness and even sought out new, unique and growth-inducing ways to make yourself uncomfortable consciously?
Here are a few things you can do to be more willing to be uncomfortable:
- Take inventory of your life. Where are you willing to be uncomfortable and where are you not? The more honest you can be with yourself about your own willingness (or lack thereof), the more able you'll be to make some important adjustments and changes. Be authentic and compassionate with yourself as you make this inquiry.
- Identify your fears. There is always a specific fear (or a set of fears) that exits underneath all your resistance. When you're not willing to be uncomfortable, it's usually because you're scared. If you can admit, own and express your fears in an honest and vulnerable way, you can liberate yourself from their negative grip.
- Create support and accountability around you. The best way I know to challenge yourself and step out of your comfort zone is to elicit the support of others and make sure you get them to hold you accountable. There may be important things for you to do that you know will take your life, work and relationships to the next level, but they seem intimidating (i.e., uncomfortable). Getting people you trust and respect to help you, coach you and push you is one of the best ways to make it happen—even, and especially, if you're not sure how or worried you can't do it.
Being uncomfortable is, well, uncomfortable. But, it's one of the most important things for you to embrace if you want to live a life of real meaning, purpose and passion.
Mike Robbins is a best-selling author, sought-after motivational keynote speaker and personal growth expert who works with people and groups of all kinds. Robbins is the author of the best-selling books Focus on the Good Stuff and Be Yourself: Everyone Else Is Already Taken. He and his work have been featured on ABC News and in Forbes, Ladies Home Journal, Self and many other publications.
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