4 Steps to Forgiveness - Dr. Ned Hallowell
Dr. Ned Hallowell shows you how to move past the pain with anyone in your life.
Original Content | September 09, 2009
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Reliving and Reflecting
Once you've had the chance to vent, you are ready to appeal to your rational side, Dr. Hallowell says.
- Ask yourself: What do you want this pain to turn into?
- Look for the hook. The hook is what is holding you back—it's the portion of the misdeed that is causing you to hold on to your anger and resentment.
- Empathize with the person who hurt you.
- Remember that forgiveness is not the service of condoning. It's a service to yourself—free yourself from the poison of hatred.
Next: The difficult step of working it out
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