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4 Steps to Forgiveness


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Pain and Hurt

Dr. Hallowell says the first step to forgiveness is acknowledging what happened.

  • Talk to someone you trust and open up about how hurt, sad or angry you may feel. Let your emotions out, and don't apologize for them.
  • Don't withdraw or isolate yourself. Stay connected and feel the pain, even though it hurts. With someone there to listen, the pain is more bearable.