Dr. Laura Berman Webcast Transcript
Dr. Berman: And then there are these finger grooves, so your clitoris is right here. This is your vulva on the outside, right? And your clitoris is right here, and you use these finger grooves to go up like this. So this part is against your clitoris and labia, and then you rock it back and forth so you're getting simultaneous and consistent G-spot and clitoral stimulation. So this one women go crazy over. They really like this one for the blended orgasms.
Oprah: What's it called?
Dr. Berman: It's called the Adonis.
Oprah: The Adonis.
Dr. Berman: Yes.
Oprah: And this is just to hold the battery. The other part's just for holding the battery.
Dr. Berman: And for the—there's a long cord. I don't have it all the way open, but you can set it and just use—it's not all tied together.
Oprah: So is this something you're doing for yourself or is someone doing this for you?
Dr. Berman: Both. You can do all of these with a partner if you want to or by yourself, so if you're solo or if you just want to do it and have your partner watch or if you want your partner to do it for you, you can do all that. These are great ways to spice things up and they're not too expensive. I mean especially in this economy we want to think about that. This one—
Oprah: Of course.
Dr. Berman: —the Athena, is about $10. This one is about $20. This one, let me see if I have—
Oprah: I hear that the sale of these products has gone up because of the economy.
Dr. Berman: It has.
Oprah: That's what I hear.
Dr. Berman: Because the economy—because people would rather just invest, you know, $20, $50, whatever it is, in a fun sex toy and stay at home and sort of be playful and spice things up and get some sexual relief from the tension, but also it's a nice way to spend a night in. And this one has a really good bang for your buck, too, because it's several things in one. This is called the Aurora, and so it has two different bullets. This one I put in—it comes with a little silicon harness so the woman could use this herself. Once again, it has a long cord and a remote control. The woman could use this herself externally, all right? She can use it alone, either one of these bullets alone internally or externally, and this is a little holster that the guy can wear so this goes around his penis.
Oprah: Oh, please.
Dr. Berman: Yeah. Around his penis for hands-free clitoral stimulation during intercourse.
Oprah: Okay. You have just crossed the line with me.
Dr. Berman: Okay. Are you ready?
Oprah: No, you have crossed the line with me. I don't know what the hell you're talking about.
Dr. Berman: All right, look. Here is the penis. (Indicating. )
Oprah: I swear. I'm not ready for it. I'm not ready. I'm not ready for it. No. I am not ready for it. I am not nearly as advanced as I thought I was. No, I'm not. I'm not. No. No. No, no. Let's move on.
Dr. Berman: Okay.
Oprah: Lisa is Skyping in. Hello, Lisa.
Lisa: Hi, Oprah.
Oprah: Hi there. It just went a little too far for me.
Dr. Berman: We didn't even get to the toy cleaner.
Oprah: Never mind. Lisa is there with her husband, Bill, in their family room in Michigan. What's your question?
Lisa:Well, first of all, thank you for doing this series. It's opened up quite—quite a lot of conversations even among friends for the past couple weeks.
Oprah: I'm sure it has. Really.
Oprah: Thank you. Thank you. Go ahead.
Lisa:My question is, let's say you get beyond the—being a little scared about all this, and you choose your sex toy. How do you incorporate this into love making? Do you—
Oprah: I'm with you.
Lisa: Circle Tuesday night on the calendar as toy night? Do you pull it out from underneath your pillow and say, "Let's try this?"
Dr. Berman: Right.
Lisa: What do you do next?
Oprah: What's the language for it?
Dr. Berman: Yeah, yeah. Right. What's the language?Well, I mean, I think it's important—it's helpful to talk about ahead of time—
Dr. Berman: —and I think what you're talking about is that you already know—
Oprah: Dean's going to remove these.
Dr. Berman: Okay.
Oprah: Thank you, Dean.
Dr. Berman: You already know that you want to use them. You've talked about it. So how do you do so spontaneously? And I think any of the things you're talking about are good. I also recommend just having a little drawer in your night table or a nice little box that you can put under your bed that's—that's your toy box. And so when you want it, you can just sort of pull it out. I have had some couples that make it sex toy night, you know, or play night or experimentation night and I—I even have couples who I've had do a fantasy box so they each write down all the fantasies they would want to act out together and put them in a box and from time to time they pull one out and act it out. So this is sort of the same thing.
Oprah: Well, I think they've already—listen, you guys seem to have already set the mood there.
Dr. Berman: Yeah.
Oprah: You've got the fireplace going. You're holding hands snuggled up in front of the fire.
Dr. Berman: Yeah, you're ready.
Lisa: No, the kids are coming back home.
Oprah: The kids are coming back home. Well, thanks, Lisa and Bill. But she's right. There needs to be a language for—
Dr. Berman: Yes.
Oprah: How do you even integrate this?
Dr. Berman: Right.
Oprah: I like that idea of the night stand.